The Perk of Pain

Pain, whether physical or emotional, is an invitation.

“You are cordially invited to experience __________.”

  • physical pain
  • emotional upset
  • betrayal
  • a spiritual crisis
  • a frightening medical diagnosis
  • humiliation
  • a health challenge
  • a fearful event
  • a childhood wound

You can see that that there are countless ways to fill in the blank above.  Of course, each of these is an “invitation” that none of us would seek out or accept willingly.  Yet, most of us, after some sort of adversity such as those listed above, can find the blessing that sprang from the experience–and it is usually one we wouldn’t trade.  Even in the most severe health crisis–the gifts are immeasurable.  So, our tendancy to want to turn and run from pain really won’t serve us.  My advice, run into it, head on.

Pain is a gift and is often essential to our personal evolution.  Without it we may travel largely through life unconscious.

Those who are interested in an evolution of the self understand that  oftentimes pain is essential to waking us up and living life more fully.  Pain invites us to ask really important questions and to spiritually grow up. Pain invites us to evaluate what we believe to be true, important, and hard.  Pain invites us to check our boundaries, our wounds and to change something.  These situations have us mute the outside world for a bit, so that we can go inward and wake up to a reality that goes beyond our physical world.  This is a truer reality than anything you can access with your five senses.

No one ever “gets over” pain.  Well, not if “Getting over” something is defined as erasing it from  your experience.  “Getting over” something painful  would be better described as “getting through.” This is what happens when wisdom replaces angst, fear, hurt or anger.  Wisdom bring peace and a recalibration of our lives.  The loss of a loved on that illuminates a new and unexpected life purpose or a betrayal that has you set new healthy boundaries going forward, are both by-products of WISDOM.

Rather than run, dive into your pain. This journey will have you more awake, engaged and alive than before the pain found you.

Rena M. Reese is the founder of Soul Salon International, an inspirational multimedia company, which also offers coaching and consulting to help people find their “happy place”. She is the author of several inspirational titles, a professional speaker and coach as well as the host of a weekly radio program, The Soul Salon. Please visit on the web, on Facebook and on Twitter @TheSoulSalon.